5 ways to soothe a Mother’s soul
At the end of the day you have been through every emotion in your repertoire, you have worked hard, you have played fair, you have felt guilty for not being exactly what you perhaps wanted to be for your child, you have dealt with the public at large and maybe have had to be extremely patient at some point in the day, or that you have had to listen to a whining child/children all day.
Interestingly enough I heard it in the John Tesh radio show a couple of months ago that the most annoying sound in the world is the whining of kids, no- not the finger nails on chalk board, not even road work..whining.
“Finally, empirical evidence has arrived that whining is one of the most annoying noises ever. (As if you needed proof.)
In fact, childish whining is more distracting than the screech of a high-pitched table saw, according to a new study. To test people’s tolerance for various sounds, scientists asked them to do math problems in silence, and then while listening to talking, “mothers’” (aka baby talk), whining and machine noise. The results? Whining tripped up subjects with their subtraction more than any other sound.”
Frazzled in our minds, we mothers, the nurturers of the family, the glue, the anchor have to still be the peace makers. These are all expectations that people around us have and perhaps what we had of our own mothers- these expectation you see is quite hereditary!
Being the peace keeper and the peace maker can work only if you have immediate access to peace yourself. When I say peace keeper I obviously do not mean someone who keeps the peace by not dealing with the issue at hand, this can have serious repercussions. I mean empowering yourself by being kind and loving to yourself first.
Here are some simple steps to set you on a soothing path. These steps are not going to magically make those stressors disappear, but they are definitely going to help you change your perspective about them.
1 . Music is a great way to soothe and calm you nerves. Music helps release the happy hormones, the serotonins and the endorphins which in turn boosts your mood and relaxes those frayed nerves. Perhaps soothing, gentle music can pacify irritated nerves and wash away the anxiety that your body and mind has held on to from the day’s events. Music is known to enhance creativity and spread harmony in the body. I listen to music all the time, well at least most of the time. While I am writing this is the music in the background, hope you enjoy it too .
2 . I get it! Mothers, we don’t have that much time to do anything for ourselves. I am asking you for five minutes at first! Start by waking up five minutes before everybody else does. Dedicate the five minutes to prayer. Start the day with direct contact with the Universe/God. After a few days you will start to feel the subtle difference in your life. Then slowly graduate to about 10 minutes and keep increasing the time until you reach about half an hour to forty five minutes.
3. First five minutes, pray, connect and access the infinite divinity within you. The second five minutes slowly state five things that you are really grateful for (abstract or real ) loudly or in your mind feel the gratitude and engage with the feeling of appreciation surging into your being.
4. Set your phone alarm for every couple of hours and when that alarm goes off…. APPRECIATE YOURSELF. BREATHE. CONNECT AND SAY SOMETHING GOOD TO YOURSELF. Like “I love you” “ you are amazing” “ you are doing a good job” Just imagine a good friend next to you encouraging you and supporting you- yes- you are that good friend to yourself!
5. At least once a week , sit down and drink a quiet cup of tea. Read magazines, positive , fun books or simply be, but schedule it in your calender. This way you are refueling, recharging and rejuvenating. Make this a habit and see the world of difference soothing your own soul makes. I promise you, you will not be disappointed.
Until tomorrow beautiful Mothers, Take care of you heart and soothe your soul
As usual if you have any questions or comments I am here to help you! I also help moms via Skype sessions release limiting beliefs of themselves so they can really find profound success , fulfillment and peace.