How easily Buddha says “The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.”
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.”
Should we forget our past? Why should we forget our past? A question was asked of me the other day. Aren’t we the sum total of our past?
What is the past?
Think about it. The past is simply something that has already happened but is NEVER tangible to us. It is now like a movie. You can never touch it or really feel it with your hands except with your mind.
Now, there are things that are wonderful about the past that you might want to remember and keep as a memory and it just invokes beautiful feelings within you. It might even make you happy or induce some pleasant sensations in your physiology. That can serve a good purpose. But then, you can also have the reverse effect with past memories. This too although intangible the mind can engage it as real. When you think about the past hurts, anger, frustrations…guess what it does to you? Encourage the same emotions within you that can restrict you from choosing a different outcome or a different response and even a different future.
Why do we dwell in the past? Because we are humans and we are a complex organism, we process information and everything we are conscious of, we store.
3 STEPS TO LETTING GO OF THE PAST
1. Commit: First of all, nothing happens until you make up your mind. You have to commit to letting go of the past hurt, pain, past relationship/s, childhood traumas. Once you are willing to let go then you are allowing yourself the freedom for freshness to enter your being, you life and your very existence.
2. Change your story: Reliving and re-telling your sad story becomes such a habit, that you won’t even notice that you are carrying this conversation with yourself when you could be enjoying the present. Consciously make subtle empowering shifts in your language. Instead of saying “wish I had done this differently in the past” change it to “Wow, now I have an opportunity to make a different choice.”
3. Acceptance: This step is the key. When I say accept- it is about becoming aware of the fact that something happened in the past and that it is steadily and unforgivingly eating away your future. Remember to feel the pain of whatever has happened to you – completely, this allowance will open you fully to the present where you actually are. Once you realize that, and then recognize that you cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. Awareness helps you break that cycle of living in the past pattern. So dissolve it or neutralize it so it doesn’t haunt your present or your future. If you cannot change what happened in the past, then accept it and let it go. Release it into the Universe it does not serve any purpose except the valuable lesson learned.
Don’t be a prisoner of the past. If you have trouble with this I can guide you there. [email protected]
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